I think it was the second session when he said something like “you really beat yourself up a lot.” I never thought of it like that. I was just normal for me. It was a slow process, but Kevin helped me change the way I treat myself. I learned to treat myself like a friend.
When I started seeing Kevin I really didn’t believe counselling could help someone like me. I was too damaged. And I wasn’t ready to trust anyone, never mind this counsellor. I used to get impatient and aggressive in sessions and I think I was just trying to push him away before he did. I thought he’d really dislike me once he found out who I really was. But it never happened. That never happened and he was kept being patient and helped me see that I was doing, and he helped me see that I wasn’t damaged. I was really someone who have been really hurt as growing up. So much changed for me through has happened and it hard to explain, but I’d do it again in a second.
I used to be so hard on myself and god forbid I make a mistake. Not only am I easier on myself, I like myself now. I actually like myself. (I never thought that was possible).
Nothing was good enough and I complained about every little thing at home. I had to do something or my wife was gone. And now life at home is easier. We talk about all kinds of stuff now. We even talk about our dreams, like when we were dating.
I go out with friends and have fun now. Actually have fun. Before I was consumed with what’s everyone thinking about me. I feel like a different person, more confident.
I was really in a horrible place. I was alone and I really didn’t think there was a way out. If it wasn’t for you, Kevin, I don’t know if I’d still be here.
Counselling works and I wish I had gone sooner and not put my family through so much. Totally worth it.
Dollar for dollar is was the best return of investment I ever did. I’m not overwhelmed at work anymore and I’m so much more productive and the best part is I have more time for my family—and I can actually be free of work worries when I’m with them.
For me going to counselling was for people who were too weak to deal with their own problems. But really it was one of the bravest things I ever did. Talking to Kevin and being understood changed everything for me. And I had a lot to talk about!
I’m in a way better place. Not beating myself up in my head. I’m way calmer.